It’s been five months since my last blog post. Writer’s block and life have gotten in the way. But now, in our altered reality, I have a message to share with you about change and uncertainty.
This is the second spring with significant disruption in my life. Right around this time last year, my husband and I moved out of our house (which is also a bed and breakfast and New Tricks world headquarters) for five months while a reality show used it to film their next season. They moved everything we owned out of the house, garage, offices, and yard. We were able to rent a house in the neighborhood, but it was stressful to change my comfy routine.
Our temporary house didn’t have a yard, so I walked the dogs a lot and took them to a great dog park each morning. That ended up being such a blessing. I was getting more exercise, and I made some new friends at the park.
The network made significant changes to our home to make it work for the show. The contract allowed us to direct the design work to restore our home following shooting and before we moved back in. My house had looked pretty much the same for 20 years. I began to feel overwhelmed with the extra work of selecting new paint colors, fixtures, and fittings in a relatively short timeframe while continuing to run New Tricks. I was at high risk for stress eating, so I started a food plan to counteract that likelihood.
In “normal” times, we hold on to our routines and patterns of living – even when they aren’t working for us any longer –because it’s what we know. In some ways, we are just like the rat who keeps going down the third tunnel in the maze looking for the cheese that was once but is no longer there. If only he had glanced down the second tunnel as he passed by, he would have found it!
I identified with that rat. My third tunnel (20-year routine) was so nice and comfortable that though I had gained quite a bit of weight, I had little motivation to do something different since I felt pretty good. When the move disrupted my life, I exercised more, started a food plan, and the pounds began to drop. I was able to maintain my new habits when I moved back home to start my new normal and have now lost nearly 100 pounds.
Now I am by no means saying that disruption from a temporary move is the same thing as a global pandemic. It is most certainly not. What I am saying is that when we are acutely aware of the uncertainty of life, and things are in flux, we have a unique opportunity to make new choices. Change is more likely to occur in a crisis or shift than during periods of calm. I started New Tricks when I didn’t have a job in 2009 – at the height of the recession! I began helping people use “new tricks” like WordPress and social media to start new businesses after their old ones were no longer viable.
I don’t claim to know what the future will bring, but I’m pretty sure that when we’re able to leave our homes, we won’t be “going back to normal.” We all have to navigate these new times –personally and professionally – but we don’t have to do it alone!
Let’s connect to talk about your concerns, fears, and ideas so we can emerge from this period of disruption feeling accomplished and positive. Even small changes can bring about a sense of power and optimism.
I have scheduled two free group Zoom sessions for us to talk. Use the links below to sign up.
- Tuesday afternoon, April 28, 2020, 3:00PM – 4:30PM EDT
- Thursday evening, April 30, 2020, 7:00PM – 8:30PM EDT
I hope you will join me for one or both sessions!