My dog died today. Clyde was the oldest of our three Basset Hounds. Turns out he swallowed a whole pecan that had fallen from our tree in the backyard. When they went in to remove it, he didn’t make it and died on the operating table.
Clyde was a furry Black, White and Brown hound dog. He looked a lot like the cowhide rug in my office where he would lay at my feet, while I was working. When I would get up, I wouldn’t see him laying there and it is a miracle that I didn’t break my neck tripping over him. Just for the record, it is not advisable to get a rug that matches your dog.
When it was time to eat, Clyde was the dog that would do a happy dance turning all around when we fed him his little cup of dried dog chow. I would always give him a little extra and Duane would get after me about it. Clyde was also the one that would knock on the patio door when they wanted to come back inside. We are all going to miss him
I thought about not writing this today. Give myself a break and all. But I know that life is short and I have a lot to get done on the projects I am working on. There are a lot of times that emotions come up in my life, that I could use to justify my not doing the things I need to do to get my goals. But if I let that be the way I handled life I would not have accomplished the things I am proudest of in my life.
There was a time when I didn’t get that you could actually be really upset and still do your work. When I was doing my psychology internship, I had a clinical supervisor who was living with a psychiatrist on staff and they were planning to get married. They had a beautiful house out on the marshes and seemed to have a beautiful life together. One day the word spread among us interns that they had split up that weekend and she had to move out.
I said to my friends, “But, I saw her this morning doing rounds.” And someone said, “Yes, she’s working today.” I spoke to her later about how I was surprised, under the circumstances, that she came in to work. She explained that emotions and behavior were two different things and you can do what you have to do and be sad at the same time.”
Maybe you are saying, “But of course, I know that.” But think of all the times we don’t do something because we don’t ‘feel’ like it. It can become a bad habit and then a terrible way of life since at the end of the day it doesn’t lead to you creating a legacy to be proud of. It certainly is easier to bail when something uncomfortable comes up.
Sometimes it helps to visualize having a box where you can put whatever it is that is bothering you. Then you can take the box and place it on the shelf for a while so you can go ahead and do what you have to do. You can always get it out later when you have the space to deal with it. Trust me, it is not going anywhere.
So I am writing this to you, my peeps, because I need to. And because I know you will understand. And because I really want you to suit up and show up and do the important things you must do in your life, even when sad, mad, hurt, disappointed or afraid.